Russian dating secrets

How not to run into a selfish Russian woman?

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 18:22:26 +0000

Many men joining Russian on-line dating and matrimonial sites prefer not to run into scammers and selfish women. No one likes to be taken advantage of and waste time. Not seeing a person in real life makes things even complicated. What rules to follow to avoid encountering a selfish Russian woman? Unfortunately, there are no special rules to work 100 % as every case is unique as well as every person on earth.
You can follow some pieces of advices to detect a woman is selfish and stop your communication. Some notes of selfishness can be noticed in woman’s profile and correspondence. If you see too much ‘I’ in her letters, lack of interest or small interest in you (not asking questions, forgetting dates, not congratulating you on occasion, not reliving things with you, etc). It is a first signal to think whether you need to go on with this relationship or not.
If your potential fiancé is requiring a lot from you, but does a little on her side, it is also a reason to think over your relationship and where it can lead. If a woman requires much attention in form of flowers, gifts sent, but doesn’t spend much time talking to you over the phone, chatting, doesn’t express much gratefulness, attention and mutual feelings and emotions, apparently she is selfish and is taking advantage of you.
If your correspondence and communication over the phone plus chats was a good experience, but you visit a lady and feel lack of her attention, tenderness, etc., your dates are short and cold, but what you see are just restaurants, night clubs, shopping, suggestions to travel abroad, buying something really expensive, then be sure the lady is a ‘shark’ in the matters of selfishness. You better run away from such a woman. Never hope this sort of ladies will change, they really know what they want and there is no room for you in their intentions.

How to check that the woman’s interest is genuine

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 18:16:11 +0000

When you register in any online dating agency you start receiving tones of letters from different ladies. You choose the women you are interested in and start getting them to know better. However, the question arises how to check the woman is really interested in you and is not trying to achieve her own goals?

When corresponding with a woman, make sure she doesn’t speak of herself only and is interested in you, asks you questions, makes plans and discusses the future possible life with you. Try as soon as possible to move your correspondence contact to a personal one. If the lady is genuinely interested in you, she would exchange her private contact information with you and will spend her spare time to communicate with you. This happens when you have lady’s genuine interest. She will never disagree talking over the phone; even when she is busy, she will schedule a phone conversation for another time or date.

An interested lady will always accept your invitation on skype or video chat as she really wants to learn you closer and will take every possibility to do so. She will switch the camera on and show she is for real, if not it is a red flag: the lady can be a fake or has false pictures on her profile. Suggest a lady meeting her in flesh and see her reaction. If woman agrees to meet you, she is genuinely interested in you, if not, don’t waste your time on these sorts of ladies.

Don’t believe a woman will come to see you at your place. It is possible in rare cases. Most of Russian women cannot afford such a trip financially and getting a tourist visa is really problematic, practically impossible. Maybe she is just avoiding your visit to her place or is a scammer. The best way to learn if a woman is really interested in you is having a direct contact with your bride-to-be and your common sense.

What to be prepared for in a marriage with a Russian woman?

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 18:00:44 +0000

Before getting married to a Russian girl, you need to think of all pluses and minuses of this marriage and make a decision for yourself. What to be ready for in a marriage with a Russian lady?

First of all be ready for a language barrier. Not all Russian brides speak English or any other foreign language. This is a challenge and you need to be super patient. Difference in mentalities and culture won’t make things easier. Russian wife would ask you to help her with the adaptation to the new for her country, culture, traditions, etc. This also requires attention, patience and understanding, and becomes even more difficult if you don’t understand each other due to the language barrier.

Get ready for her being home sick, miss her family and friends. Try to support her in this and provide her contact to her home in optimal measures, especially during the first period of adaptation. We are lucky to live in the era of internet and skype is a way out indeed. Make sure your wife meets new friends and has time of her own.

Financial issues. Russian women in their majority work and have their own money. It is evident your wife won’t work in your country, at least for the first period, so make sure she has money needed as begging for money is humiliating for Russian nature.

What else to be prepared for?
Together with all patience respect and understanding get ready for a marriage on heaven with loving, attentive wife, caring mother and excellent housewife. Be prepared to come back home from work to a smiling wife, meeting you at the door, kissing you, telling you the dinner is ready. Russian women are great cooks, they know how to keep home hearth, comfort at home. You and your place will always be tidy and kids would always be taken care of. This woman will share everything with you, coming through thick and thin. What else a man can desire?

Discover what Russian women expect from a man who is courting them

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 17:55:52 +0000

Courtship is a great period in life of every couple, a period when the strong bond between the partners is being built turning the romance of this period to the depth of understanding, love and commitment in future. This period is called by Russian a bouquet-candy period. The origin of name is evident. It is a very romantic time, full of surprises, flowers, dates, love, attention, emotions, care, etc.

Western men are curious to learn what Russian women expect from them during this period not to ruin everything. The answer will be quite banal, Russian women expect the same things as most of the women all over the globe. Great dinners at the restaurants, tones of flowers, serenades, chocolates, presents, surprises, common vacations, shopping, etc. This is all good and should be done and planned. However, this is not really what counts. What really plays an important role, is your feelings, your emotions when you do all enumerated above and even more.

Russian woman dreams to love and be loved wants to find a man, who would live her life together with her, cherish her, be attentive to her needs, whose shoulder she would be able to lean against and feel safe as if by the wall made of stone. To succeed in your courting you need to meet these needs. All your actions should be full of care and attention, admiration and love. Be gallant, respectful, and sincere and don’t forget things are good in measures. Don’t overdo or under do things. Don’t overwhelm your lady with sweets and flowers everyday as this can become a routine and even annoying with time. You need to feel your lady. Be inventive, be different and unpredictable, be her knight in armor to win her love.

Yes, courting a Russian woman is not an easy task, but all your efforts would be more than just rewarded.

What to be honest about when on a Russian date?

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 17:49:00 +0000

Russian women are honest by their nature and upbringing. Honesty is considered very important in Russian society. For sure all people lie or exaggerate things in their lives. Still, there are topics that better remain honest about, especially with your Russian fiancé. First impression is very important and telling lies starting with the first date will provide an image of a liar and not a serious man. For sure nobody would like that, especially dating a woman you have been dreaming about all your life long.

There are things that are better said honestly from the very beginning in order not to ruin your relationship with a Russian lady.

Always be honest about your identity, even if you don’t like the way your name sounds. You can tell your true name, but ask her to call you the way you like. If you don’t tell your true name she will consider you dishonest in everything else.

Never lie about your present marital status and existence of children and their number. Russian women can be ok with your process of separation and 4 kids, but they would be shocked to learn this in future, thus not trusting you further on.

It is better not to hide the health issues and the ability to have children. This is not usually discussed right away, but it is better to inform your fiancé if there are serious things to discuss. For instance vasectomy can become a real big problem if a woman sees a happy family only with common kids. Addictions and bad habits can be included here as well.

Be honest about your job, income, life conditions. Don’t exaggerate. You future wife will come to your place and the image of you will be spoiled when she sees the real things.

If the lady asks you about your expectations towards your future wife, be true as you will have to live with this all your life long.

Remember that all the secrets are made open sooner or later.

Can you expect to have sex with your fiancé upon your arrival to Russia

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 17:42:09 +0000

You have found the lady of your dreams, your thoughts are about her only, and you are in a sweet and exciting expectation of the first meeting. These are unforgettable and pleasant emotions to come through. Together with this many men are being nervous about how to act, what to expect and not the last question they are interested in if they can share the intimacy with the fiancé on their arrival to her country.
So, can you expect to have sex with your fiancé upon your arrival to Russia or any other post Soviet Union country? In most of the cases the answer will be ‘no’. Though with time Russian women have become more sexually liberated, in order to have sex, they need to be close enough with their sexual partner. If Russian women don’t feel you are serious, never expect to have a sexual contact with them. Russian women consider sex a very intimate thing and can share it with very close people, whom they trust and feel safe with. Agree it is not an easy task to obtain in several days or a week of your visit. What you really need to do is build a strong bond with a lady, so that she can feel you, sense you, trust you and feel safe with you. It is a very difficult task for a long-distance relationship. If you were corresponding only, even for a long period of time, you will hardly succeed to have sex with your fiancé on your first arrival. Most probably you will need to come back several times before you build this bond.
However, there is a probability of sex if your correspondence on-line was moved to a more personal contact, such as phone conversations, long talks on-line and video chats. These internet facilities help you to create a strong bond before you meet, so don’t underestimate the quality of your communication. Remember that physical chemistry also plays role when you meet in flesh.

What can happen if you date many Russian women at one time?

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 17:31:36 +0000

Many dating and matrimonial on-line agencies give a piece of advice to their customers to date as many girls as possible during one visit to have the ladies to choose from. This for sure has an advantage of meeting as many girls as you desire during one visit saving your funds and time and not being alone in a foreign country. However, this is all you win, if your intentions are serious for sure. It makes no sense to travel to another country wasting your time and money just to have fun. One can do this in his homeland. Another thing is sexual tourism that has become popular among western men; however, this is not the topic of the present article.

If you still decide to go to Russia or any other former Soviet Union country to meet many Russian women at a time, you need to be aware of what can happen.

You need to make sure the ladies don’t know about each other’s presence and avoid them seeing you with another woman, for instance meeting you at the airport (several at once), encounter each other in a public place, etc. This can cause your anxiety and you won’t feel comfortable and the outcome is clear if a lady sees you with another one. They will never take you seriously then.

You need to be attentive with the names of the ladies, their personal data, likes, dislikes, etc. It won’t be a pleasant surprise for a lady if you order champagne when she doesn’t drink at all or hates this drink, has an allergy on a product ordered, etc. This won’t show your seriousness either as you are not attentive to the one you say you care about.

There are for sure many more nuances, but spending your short amount of time among many ladies you risk not to create a strong bond to any of them, thus botching up your mission of finding your only one to create happy harmonious family life of your dreams with. Just think if it worth it.

How to act on a first meeting or visit with a Russian lady

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 17:19:09 +0000

The first meeting promises to be exciting as you have never seen each other in person. Most probably you will be nervous, maybe even insecure and thinking of what to say when you first see her or how to greet her first. This article provides you with some suggestions of how to act.
First of all remain yourself and show her your personality the way you are, as you did in your correspondence and on-line communication. There is no need to learn the speech and get prepared. You will forget all the words when you see her and, moreover, it is always better to act naturally. When you get there, don’t compare Russia or any other CIS countries with your country. Russia and former Soviet Union (FSU) countries are different from western countries in the matter of finances and things in western countries are more organized and modernized. However, the big cities are very much alike to western ones, Moscow, for instance.
Never boast about the things you have. Being a wealthy man is not a major priority in Russian mentality. Having harmonious family, many friends, be happy and healthy is more important. Don’t talk about the things involving money matters as what is normal for your country can be luxurious for FSU countries, for instance car, boat, house, etc. Don’t make jokes on Russians and Russian way of life in her and her family, friends’ presence.
Respect her culture and traditions. Russia and FSU countries have beautiful art, history, literature, and things to see. Russians don’t smile a lot, though they are friendly, kind and open people. If you are getting married to this girl, remember she loves her country and this will need to become your home number two. Be open to her country, find its pluses and try to love it, the way it is. You will see how grateful your Russian wife will be for this.

What is the best way to organize your personal meeting?

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 16:38:48 +0000

So, you have found the lady of your dreams. Your hopes and aspirations are connected to her. You decided to meet. Here arises a question: “What is the best way to organize a meeting?” The best answer is to discuss and solve with your beloved. Anyway, there are still things that you should remember. It is difficult for Russian women to travel to any western country, not only for the financial reasons, but also opening a tourist visa or private visa is practically impossible. You can meet in a visa-friendly country like Egypt, Turkey, Israel, Cyprus, etc, but it will take time and money on woman’s side to arrange it. So, the best way for the first date is to meet the lady in her country. It would be convenient for her and she would feel ‘safe’ in her own environment. This will be also a great plus for the K1 visa (US. Citezens) as you will need the evidence for the immigration authorities to prove you have a serious relationship. Besides this, meeting a lady in her own country you get a possibility to meet her family and friends.
Before going to her country learn about it, what are the customs restrictions not to get into a foolish or even dangerous situation. Choose the agency’s service of renting a room in a hotel or an apartment and book the variant you prefer in advance. You can also use transfer service from the airport to the hotel or apartment. If you think it is expensive for you, you can ask your lady to work for you on this, or you can do this by yourself on-line. If you are with a reputed agency then trust the agency as then all your expectations would be met. It is not recommended to stay at your lady’s place during your first visit.
For sure, the reason of your visit is your potential wife, but it is better to preventively decide what to do and where to go during your stay in agreement with your lady.

How does that first impression of a Russian woman’s profile affect your choice?

admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 16:01:14 +0000

Have you ever thought of what attracted you to this or that lady from a dating site. What you have is only her profile. Anyways, you choose from the big amount of other profiles on the net. The thing is that there are profiles that catch the eye and those that are getting lost in the grey crowd of other profiles.

First impressions are very important, especially when you are not able to see a person in flesh. One of the ways to create a great first impression is have a great profile. The best profiles are not overloaded by the details, are reader-friendly and provide a snapshot of a personality with space for questions for the potential dates. A great profile is thought to details. First what catches a look is a photo. The more interesting it is, the more attractive it will be. Western men are usually attracted to a nice looking lady with long hair, open face, smile, elegantly dressed and wearing high hills. The photo should be of great quality, preferable professionally done, with the right amount of shadow and light not to distract attention from the lady. The most popular ladies at matrimonial sites are natural looking ones, avoiding sexual or vulgar looks, outfits and positions. This comes out subconsciously, depending what a man is expecting from the future partner. As a rule, men prefer modest and stylish women as their potential wives and not sexually liberated pictures getting attention for one-night stands only.

Information stated in profile should be laconic and all the fields should be filled in. Brevity is talent’s sister. No life stories are welcomed. Typical statement won’t do, but a hilarious experience or memory will work. And the last, but not the least, grammar and punctuation are very important in creation of the first impression. Just think what profiles catch your eye.